Question
We've had this cat for almost 4 years. She's peed on stuff only when obviously mad at us, until about a year after we brought a baby into our lives.
The problem is the baby loves to interact with the cat in a way that kind of sucks for the cat. She grabs tufts of fur and twists and stuff like that. I immediately stop the behavior every time I catch it, but it's become more difficult to keep the baby from the cat. She's at the age where she's even climbing the cat tower.
Basically, the cat has nowhere to really be safe from the baby, and she's non-violent, but she's making her voice heard by peeing on the baby's belongings, every day.
I got really mad at her and probably broke trust because I don't feel like there's anything I can do about the situation. The apartment is small and we don't have a lot of spare income. Is there a way I can give her privacy or should I take her to an adoption shelter? I love the cat, I don't want her to suffer for our decisions, but this isn't working for either us or the cat unless we can find some way to fix it.
Answer
Like comments and other answers suggest: first you should exclude a health issue by visiting the vet.
Maybe it is possible to make a place for the cat that the baby could not reach.
I have seen some combinations of cupboards on the wall, so they form a stair up to a closet. There the cat could have a bed to feel comfortable and safe. The stair steps (cupboards) are built in a way the baby could not reach them, but the cat could jump. Maybe it needs some encouragement to train the cat for it, but the cat will catch the idea quickly, if it notices the place is "baby safe" (examples below).
Another point is: it is positive for your baby to learn cats (and other animals) have feelings one could hurt. They need special care and are no toys! This is an important step in the development of every human: "I am not the king/queen of all, I have to follow the rules of sympathy and respect for other living beings". So it is important for you to teach this to your child. It will help him/her in the future life because it will be able to react on other's feelings, like notice sadness and bring comfort, or cause happiness in another person (maybe you) with a kiss/cuddle/smile.
Example 3 "Big gaps Baby could not climb"
Answered By - Allerleirauh